A Rant About Leaders Who Are Bullies And 10 Ways To Know You Are One

Have you ever been bullied?  Bullying is a huge issue currently and is constantly in the news.  This problem has always existed and currently exists in leadership as well.

The following are ways to know if you are a bully as a leader.  Why am I speaking directly to the leader here – because the people you are there to serve already know you’re a bully.

  1. Bullies lead by fear.
  2. Bullies degrade, insult, “encourage or train” their team members publicly.
  3. Bullies make you feel intellectuality weak.
  4. Bullies remind you that you are easily replaceable.
  5. Bullies constantly focus on what you are not.
  6. Bullies (who are men) do not respect women and view them as objects.
  7. Bullies constantly discuss their personal accomplishments.
  8. Bullies are narcissistic.
  9. Bullies often state “You’re lucky to have a job in this economy”.
  10. Bullies have little to no relational intelligence.

Now, if you are in the unfortunate position of serving under a bully, here is what you need to know as well – There is hope as this too will soon pass

A “bully leadership style” is not sustainable because the following conditions will exist:

  1. No loyalty from the team.
  2. Morale is low.
  3. Frequent heated conflict with those you are supposed to serve.
  4. The team will never go the extra mile for this type of leader.
  5. Team members will frequently leave forcing you to spend increased time on training and development rather than advancing the mission and vision of the organization.
  6. Customers or church members look for other options.
  7. Goals are consistently not met.
  8. The leader loses his/her influence.
  9. The leader loses his/her respect.
  10. The leader loses his/her job.

You see, that’s our little revenge.  It you’re a bully, here is a note to you.  Because of your personality and leadership style, you will have people fall in line.  The mistake you make is you confuse silence with compliance.  You confuse weakness with meekness.

While you may cause us many sleepless nights and a great amount of unnecessary stress, we know you are not a sustainable individual.  If we keep our head low, do our job, and stay out of your way, you will one day be gone.

We would have fought hell with a water pistol for you.  We would have gone the extra mile and served you with everything we had.  But you had to be a bully and because of that decision, you will pay a huge price.

One final word, it’s not too late to change.  Repent and start serving your team.  If you’re a bully, you are already out of options whether you know it or not. 

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About Brian Dodd on Leadership

I am a church stewardship and leadership consultant for INJOY Stewardship Solutions. This blog combines my personal passions of church, sports, pop culture and family into a single leadership resource. I trust your time on this site will create conversations and add value to your life.

11 Responses to “A Rant About Leaders Who Are Bullies And 10 Ways To Know You Are One”

  1. Christ is amazing

  2. Amazingly practical posting. Myself & my sister were getting ready to do a little basic research regarding that. We recieved a good guide on that topic from our own nearby library and a lot of textbooks are not as detailed as your content. I’m very happy to see this kind of info which I had been searching for a long time.

  3. KateNasser #Leaders, Here are 10 Ways to Spot a #Bully Leader http://bit.ly/b4mexr by @BrianKDodd |Good to know b4 you hire or promote!

  4. Brian,

    GREAT POST! My question is did you have anyone in mind as a role model for a bully boss when you wrote the piece…


    • Art,

      It is great to hear from you and tell your wife I said Hello. No inspiration. Simply trying to address a culturally relevant topic through a leadership grid.

      As an avid movie goer though, check out my post on Unstoppable and make sure you see the movie.

      Take care and I hope you’re doing well.


  5. I just wanted to comment and say well written!
    Bullying is indeed a huge problem, I don’t personally think there’s enough awareness for it. I mean there’s the stereotype that children are the main bullying target. Don’t get me wrong, it’s a HUGE problem for that age group. What I’m trying to point out at, is bullying happens anywhere and everywhere, regardless of age.
    A huge component for bullying is power. Many of the personal experiences I have experienced or witnessed, were a result of power (which can go hand in hand with your mentioning “leadership style”).
    I also like your #8 for the bully:
    #8. Bullys are narcissistic. Which is very true, and also a personality disorder which is hard to detect unless you know the person very well, so it’s hard to use it as a factor. But I completely agree!
    I just wanted to say thank you for taking time and express your opinion on bullying. It’s nice to see people who care about the issue!


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